That’s right, ladies, having good sex is in your hands! Not only do you choose who you have sex with you also choose how good it is! In concert with sizzling chemistry you have the ability to make each sexual encounter a hot one! Hopefully, your partner has some skills that’ll make your body quake and your eyes roll back in your head!
Let’s take your lover’s skill out of the equation for a moment. If you want to have hot passionate mind blowing sex you need to be a good lover.
Here are some tips to being a good lover:
•Love Your V: The female anatomy is complex and you need to know how you operate before you can expect a man to understand how to traverse the confusing and sometimes intimidating pussy. A great book to read: “She Comes First” by Dr. Kerner…he knows what’s up and lays it out!
•Are You Wet?: Know what you need to get in the mood. Do you need a romantic set up? Have a connecting conversation before undressing? Need to make out for awhile to get comfortable? Watch porn? Whatever it is, do it!
•Skills in the Sack: No Pillow Princesses here! Know what you’re doing and be an active participant! Have some sensual tricks up your sleeve! Educate yourself by reading and watching videos about pleasing yourself and your lovers.
•Open Your Legs….and Mind: Be willing to experiment and to learn from your lover! You don’t know till you try… So try it you might like it!
•Let Go So You Can Come: Sex and sexual satisfaction is mental not physical! Let go of the insecurities, shame and fear! Get out of your head and into your body! Don’t be afraid to seek professional help with past traumas and current difficulties. Read: “Come as you are” by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D. to understand more about the psychology behind these mental blocks.
•Feeling Yourself: When you feel sexy, you ARE sexy! Most guys are thrilled just to be having sex, so quit worrying about how you look! Men love it when women enjoy sex and are satisfied!
•Talk Dirty to Him: Look, men aren’t mind-readers! They might not be able to translate your movement or moans. They need feedback, verbal feedback! Do you like it? Does he need to do something different? If details or instructions are too difficult, take baby steps and use positive reinforcement. “Oh, I like when you…..”. Remember to speak up when you’re being hurt or are uncomfortable.
•Oh God…oh god!!!: Did you know you can have different types of orgasms? Know how you can get yourself off and be open to exploring other orgasms with your partner. When you know what it takes you can make it happen and communicate what you need to your partner. Remember, masterbation is beautiful and necessary to having a satisfying sex life.
If you want to be a good lover and have amazing sex you already have all of the tools to make it happen! Your mind and body are a work of art. Appreciating art is open, free, and an experience of the senses. To be mindful and present during sex is something that many of my clients struggle with, when they finally let go, the fireworks went off! SEXY is in your hands! Be yourself….There is nothing sexier.