What Not to Do on a Third Date

 

The third date is exciting, and when you are going on your third date, it means a few things:

1. It means you two are feeling each other.

2. It implies that dates one and two were great and you want to know more about the other person.

The reason the third date is talked about so much in the dating world is that it’s a significant turning point and often, there is a lot of pressure for date number three to go so well. These pressures affect our actions and expectations and can create some third dates that end up total disasters.

On this episode, I’ll talk about what to not say or do on a third date that will help you make sure that your time goes smooth with the other person.

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How to Tell She Likes You

 

Now, a lot of you know that I love men. I am an advocate for them and believe there are a lot of good men out in the dating world. You also know that on this show, I like to have very open conversations with dating.

Gents, as much as I love you, you tend not to see the signs that women are putting out to you. You can be quite oblivious, and it’s not something you do on purpose.

So gents, today’s episode is just for you. I have some surefire ways to tell if she likes you or not. I’m giving you these signs, so you don’t have to spend all your time guessing.

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The Three F’s. Do These Three Things for Your Man

Are you a woman who is looking for love and a good, healthy relationship? Who isn’t!? I’m here to help you nurture your man—physically, emotionally and mentally with what I call ‘The three F’s.’ These secrets will help him flourish and thrive. He will feel better about himself. He will value your relationship and show up as the partner you deserve. Sounds pretty good, right?

Your man is going to be more confident and content when he feels loved and valued. And that means that your man is going to show up as his best self, especially for you. 

So, what are the 3 F’s? Men need to be fed, fueled and…made love to. (You know what I mean. Wink, wink.)

Us women are complicated creatures! We are emotional beings with various needs. Since we live in a world of complexity, we tend to assume men are complicated as well. Men are wonderful. They are unique, fabulous, and they surprise us regularly. But, they aren’t all that complicated!

Ladies, doing these things for your man is not about you being passive, subservient, and doing everything for your man. This is all about showing up as a partner, a lover, a ride or die, and the woman who sticks by her man. Because a wise woman knows that if her man is thriving, she will thrive too. 

The 3 F’s will help you cater to the needs of a man’s mind, body, and soul. Men are kind of on the societal sh*tlist right now. Let’s bring love back to the men. 

The first F is feed.

Men love to eat. Shoot, we all do! But when men are cooked for and fed, it nurtures their stomachs and their hearts. You know what they say, ‘the quickest way to a man’s heart is his stomach.’ It’s true! Feeding a man makes him feel like he is cared for.  

This warm feeling comes from the very first meal a man had with their mom. Humans equate food with love because the very first person they loved—and that loved them— gave them their very first meal. It’s a profoundly subconscious response.

Cook, you say? Isn’t that what Uber Eats is for? Ladies, you don’t have to be a chef! If you love to cook, cook. I don’t personally love to cook, but if I like a guy, I will make a point to cook for him on date 6 or sometime in the second month of dating. I also tell him, “look I’m not a cook. It’s not my thing, but I like you, and I want to cook you dinner.” This tells him that even though this is something I do not usually do, I like him and think he is special. Cooking is a way for me to show that I’m making an effort because I believe he is worth it.  

Another aspect of feeding your man is eating with him. It is so vital that you eat with him. I don’t care if you are on date 1 or 15, chow down and don’t be afraid! Not eating on a date due to nerves or because you don’t want to look uncouth actually sends the not so great message. There is nothing more attractive than a woman who can joyfully share food with a man. Think about how playful and romantic it is to share nachos or french fries at a game or concert! I’ve heard more than once from a male client that a date went really well, and he loved how she took pleasure in and shared food with him. Food is love, it’s joy, it’s sharing.  It’s pleasure, and it’s an easy and beautiful way to show a man that he matters. 

The second F is F$*k.

Men are sexual creatures! They need to have sex, and they seek it out. When you are out dating, you should know every man you talk to wants to date and have sex. If he’s flirting with you, he wants to have sex with you. If he asks you for your number, he wants to sex with you. Yes. It’s that simple, that basic. 

Ladies, when it comes to your man, find out what he likes and how often he likes it. Think of it as taking his sexual temperature. Know his sex taste. 

Be prepared for what you find out! If he has a high sex drive, you should expect to be at it…a lot! For more on this read my article on Yogi Approved: ‘A girl’s guide to great sex: 8 Empowering tips to have amazing sex every time.’ 

You may be lacking confidence, or your sex drive is pretty low. Maybe you’re feeling a little meh in that department. Head to the article and trust me, it will help you feel sexy and get you into the mood faster!

The third F is fuel.

Fueling a man is all about showing him appreciation, respect, and admiration. Let’s fill our man with love. To fuel your man means you champion his career, his projects, his passions, his endeavors. Does your man show up and make you feel loved? Show your appreciation for him and the effort that he puts into the relationship. As his woman, he needs you to be his number one fan. 

Really, any woman can feed and f&*k a guy. It takes a real-ass woman who is confident, assertive, and secure with herself to fuel a man.

Fueling means you check in with him. Be a soundboard and show that you are there for him. When you check in with your man, you are supporting him as well as empowering him to be the best version of himself. 

The three F’s are all about keeping things simple. If we overcomplicate relationships, sh*t gets confusing. I challenge you to do this: every day make it a goal to do something to feed, f&*k, or fuel your man. You will find that he is not only happier and more fulfilled—you will be too. 

XOXO 

Jessica

 

The 5 Steps to Dating as a Single Parent

 

As a single parent, we’re trying to do everything ourselves. We have one income, trying to cook, clean, and parent. And then, we also have the fear of dating again because we want to protect our children and are concerned that we may bring someone into our kid’s lives that don’t mesh well with them.

On top of that, single parents often ask themselves:

“Will someone want to date me again with having kids?”

It’s hard for single parents to get back out there in the dating world. Single parents are dating on behalf of a family and have other people to take into consideration.

In this episode, Jessica shares the small playbook that she uses to safely date as a single parent.

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How Men Think vs. How Women Think

 

It’s no secret that women and men think differently. The differences between men and women’s brains have been studied by scientists and psychologists alike. Whether it’s with our friends when dating, or even in our parents, understanding these gender differences will help you with your dates and while finding love.

In this episode, Jessica shares why it’s crucial for you to know how your date thinks and some practical tips to use on dates.

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