Manifesting Love Meditation

Jessica Standing in Blue Dress

❤️Manifesting Love Meditation❤️

✨Ready to call in your Soulmate?

✨Yearning for the dream relationship?

✨Want to be a magnetic to attract love?

Manifesting Love Guided Meditation opens the spiritual gateway allowing love to manifest, flourish, and thrive in your life. This is a formal request to the universe to send love, your soulmate, and your dream relationship to you.   

This guided meditation will soothe your body and mind, ground your energy, lift your spirits, grow your self-esteem, create unwavering confidence, and call in the love you’re looking for.    

🚨WARNING: Doing this magical meditation daily is powerful so be prepared to have amazing love come into your life.



DM me on Instagram with your beautiful love stories when love comes pouring into your life from this guided meditation.

The Fire That Burns Within Me

Jessica Contemplating in Blue Dress

There’s a fire that burns within me that is relentless and undying. It’s my divine duty, my dharma, my life purpose to do my part in elevating the collective consciousness, to help end the suffering of my fellow human, and gift others with the ability to live joyously and in harmony with themselves and others. 

My intentions for 2021 are to fan the flames of desire to keep me enthralled with and focused on my spiritual mission.   


I am committed to my purpose by putting my energy, focus and effort into helping those who are ready to transform and love themselves unconditionally while manifesting the love they’re are dreaming of.


I am prosperous and make more money than I ever have before to be secure, proud of myself and live an opulent life that is exciting, fulfilling, and allows me to be unwaveringly generous.


I am exuberant and experience immense passion while doing my divine work, within my day to day life, and in my sex life. I am thrilled to experience sexual exhilaration and intoxication with someone who’s my equal. 

      I showed you mine, now show me yours…..

                    What fuels YOUR fire?! 

Do These 5 Things to Find Love in 2020!

Header 5 Things to Find Love This Year

Find love and find it now

What do I want in 2020? Love for all of you! That’s why I’m giving you the five things you must do this year to find real, powerful love. These are powerful changes that are going to give you love, peace, and have the universe smiling down on you like never before!

Right before New Years, I was curious about how 2019 played out for people so I did an Instagram poll. I asked my audience if their year was trash or if it was fire. Half said it was trash, half said it was fire and a lot of people sent me DMs saying 2019 was trash set on fire. Ha! 

2020 is your year!

That means that half of you are very much in need of a good year and a good decade. The rest of you are looking to keep that good momentum moving forward in having an even more stellar year. That’s where these five changes come in to play!

This year’s energy has us looking to get in shape, make more money, start meditating, travel more, and of course for all my singles, find that perfect person! 

Here’s the thing: so many of our new years’ resolutions and goals can be put in place with a plan. So why is it that when it comes to finding love… we just hope for the best? We think, If it happens it happens. What’s up with that?!

You have to do the work to get results

Imagine that you set a goal to lose 20 pounds and all you plan on doing is hope for the best. You still eat the same food and don’t work out. That’s ridiculous, right? We make a plan, we execute it, we change habits, and we implement new things to achieve our goals. Why don’t we treat our love life the same? 

Too many of us just cross our fingers and hope for the best. We go to the same places hoping to find new people, don’t leave the house, keep our exes in the rotation, hold on to bad habits that hold us back, hold on to the same fears and insecurities and generally do nothing to change our behavior to find the love we want. 

That all changes right now. There are five things you must do this year if you want to find love. We are not leaving love to chance! This year, it’s different. We are taking the reins, making changes and taking action! Ready? Let’s jump in.

Conscious Kind Communication

The first thing you have to do this year is approach love and dating with conscious kind communication. This means being authentic, honest and compassionate. This year be clear with your intentions, feelings, and expectations in a kind and loving manner. 

This year everything is different

In 2020 we will date with integrity. If you want a relationship, say it. If you have feelings, embrace them. This year we are not going to hide our feelings and desires out of fear and apprehension that they won’t be reciprocated. Conversely, if you don’t want to do something, say no. 

Remember, if it’s not a “hell yes!” it’s a no. We don’t have time! We are done wasting our precious time by texting people we’re not excited about and going on dates that we’re dreading. 

Using conscious kind communication will reduce confusion, save you a lot of time, and create deeper connections. It’s a real relief to fully express yourself (always in a kind manner) instead of feeling like you have to hold your cards so close to play it safe.

Conscious kind communication will create a pathway for BOTH parties to find connection and a love they deserve and are excited about. 

Insecurities be gone!

The second thing you need to do is Let go of your insecurities. Your insecurities are doing nothing but holding you back, dimming your light, keeping you hiding at home, keeping you in your head instead of enjoying your life, it’s unattractive and completely unnecessary. 

Nobody is perfect. Everybody has their shit, their quirkiness, their flaws, their weaknesses. What truly makes a person attractive, magnetic and desirable is when they embrace all of themselves. 

Listen, It’s great and healthy to work on the things that you’d like to change about yourself. But it’s even more important to accept the things you can not change. 

Tell yourself how awesome you are

In my new book, out this Spring, called “21 days to Feeling gorgeous: finally loving the skin you’re in and being the badass goddess you’re meant to be”, I talk about how critically important it is to have a good relationship with yourself. I guide you step by step through loving yourself unconditionally.

I talk about one of the most powerful and easy ways to build your confidence and feel alive: Positive Affirmations. Positive affirmations are mini manifestations. Statements like I am worthy, I am loveable, I am attractive, I am sexy AF. 

Say them in the morning, when you need a boost of confidence, before a date, say them all the time!

If there is one thing you take away from letting go of your insecurities, it is that your perfect person will love you just the way you are!

Feel those feels

The third thing that drives me absolutely crazy about our current dating world is everybody fears the feels. It baffles me! I do not know when having feelings for someone became this pathetic and unattractive thing. But it’s stupid. If we are going to run away from feels, make fun of them, deem them as bad, diminish them, WHY ARE WE EVEN DATING? 

From this day forward, we are collectively making catching feeling cool! Having a crush, falling in love, and being in love all feel amazing and that’s what we all live for. The world makes movies about love, we write songs, poetry, books, we dream about it, we pray for it, it’s what we are all longing for. 

Say it out loud!

So let’s express it! Let’s enjoy it! Let’s celebrate it! Say things like “thank you for a lovely evening, I had such a great time.” “I have a confession, I have a little crush on you.” One of my favorite things to say to someone I care about, but am not necessarily in love with – is to say, “I adore you.” It’s sweet, it’s tender, and can actually be more powerful than “I love you.”

There are so many benefits to expressing yourself. It feels good to love someone, it can open up somebody else’s heart and mind when they are loved and let’s face it- the world needs more love.

Remember these two things

Two very important things I want you to remember: Don’t be afraid to love first and don’t be stingy with your love. Be fearless! You’ve got nothing to lose. 

You’re not special

The fourth thing you have got to do is stop saying “I’ve been hurt before and I’m scared of getting hurt again.” Fuck that! If I had a dollar for every time I heard that…I’d be RICH! I hear this all the time, but everybody has been hurt. You’re not special. 

The person you are going on a date with is equally scared of getting hurt. It’s an even playing field. I’m scared, you’re scared, we’re all scared. 

When you guard yourself and hide behind the fear, it keeps you from moving forward and enjoying great experiences.

The self-pity stops now

If you are a person that says this phrase, one major change you are going to make this year is stop saying ‘I’ve been hurt before and am scared of getting hurt again.”

This idea keeps you noncommittal and keeps new love from coming into your life! This phrase hurts your heart and other people’s hearts will keep you lonely in your house, possibly sleeping with person after person, avoiding your feelings and denying reality.

That being said, If you’re not ready for a relationship—don’t date. Without meaning to, you might be leading people on and breaking some hearts.

So many people fear falling in love because they’re scared of being hurt – whether it’s from a breakup, infidelity, or a divorce – that hurt completely annihilates them because their sense of self is tied to that relationship. 

When you are healthy, whole and complete a breakup won’t totally destroy you! Yes, you will experience some sadness but you will recover and find love again. 

Wonder is wonderful

The fifth thing you need to do is to stop judging and start being curious. 

Stereotypes, assumptions, expectations are all generalities and need to be used with caution. Often, we make assumptions about people before we get to know them and can completely miss out on who they actually are. 

When we judge people before we get to know them it’s a disservice to ourselves, the other person and the possible relationship. We can’t connect with the person and might hurt their feelings and piss them off. 

Open your mind, open your heart

You don’t want to be judged unfairly, so please don’t do that to anyone else. Being curious means walking into the conversation, date, and relationship with an open mind and enthusiasm to get to know the person. This lets the person you are curious about be fully themselves around you. Let me tell you, having this approach to your love life gifts you in so many ways!

There’s no more waiting. You can change your love life right now. Let’s not leave love to chance and make love happen this year!

How to Get Over Him After Sex

Welcome to the Game of Love Podcast, a show where all things dating, mating, and love are on the table!

International Dating Coach Jessica Smith uses her unique, powerful coaching skills to help you level up in the world of dating. Her years of experience working one on one with everyone from professional athletes to single mothers makes her the perfect coach to help you navigate the complicated world of dating.

Each episode of The Game of Love is jampacked with tips, tricks, and secrets that will make you feel more confident, sexy, and empowered to find the love you are looking for.

In this episode, Jessica Smith about what happens when you become dickmatized and how to get yourself unhooked.


🖤Not Feeling Someone?! How to End it Early Without Ghosting.🖤

Butterflies in your stomach, nonstop thinking of them, checking your phone to see if they texted, recalling everything they said and did on your last date….You know that feeling when you’re into a person you just started dating! You’re so excited, right?!
Well, what if you’re not feeling someone you’re dating…what then?!
This is when ghosting sounds like a great idea. It would be much easier to just disappear, suddenly having a family emergency, a huge project at work or a sick pet than to have a convo.
But, being on the other end of ghosting and lame excuses just plain sucks.
Of course, we don’t want to hurt anyone. But, stringing them along will probably hurt them more then being honest and upfront. The sooner you end it, the less it will hurt them.
Let’s be better daters. Let’s take the higher road. Communicate lovingly, directly and authentically.
Here’s how to break it off kindly:
-Do be gentle and pretty honest. I like using an old leadership tip, “two strokes for one poke”. For every one negative you can say two positive to lessen the blow.
-Don’t go for the jugular and say something like, “I think you’re super boring. I don’t find you attractive and will never sleep with you.”
-Don’t say things you don’t want or mean. “Maybe if something changes I’ll let you know” OR “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”
-Don’t give mixed signals. “You’re a really great person but work is crazy busy and I just don’t have time.” You’re saying that you’re interested but don’t have time.
-Do put the shoe on the other foot. Think about how you’d like to receive that kind of news. That will help you communicate with kindness.
Try something like this:
“Hey ______, It’s important to me to be upfront and honest out of respect for you and myself. You are a real gentleman. Although, I enjoyed spending time with you I’m not interested in exploring this any further. Thank you for understanding. I know It sounds super cliche, but I do wish you well! Take care and be well. Sincerely, ______”
It’s better to get it over with so you and the other person can move on to bigger and better things!
Need help?! Contact me for quick and effective dating advice with my Dating 911 service!
Now, get out there and love each other.

“Hook Up Crazies” aka Oxytocin Crazies

Jessica Smith

“Hook Up Crazies” aka Oxytocin Crazies

Ladies, ever wonder why you feel so into a guy and crazy about him after hooking up…regardless if he’s great or not?!
Men, ever wonder why ladies change after  sex?
In this video I’ll explain from a hormonal perspective what happens to women after they have sex. Shedding light on why they feel into a guy and a little crazy after the act. Sometimes good crazy and sometimes bad crazy!

 Need help navigating the oxytocin Crazies?! Click here to schedule a Dating 911 session for immediate help! Or better yet, let’s makeover your love life with my VIP Dating Makeover Intensive!❤️

Men: 7 Things You should Know When Dating A Yoga Girl

Ahhh, the revered yoga girl. You’ve seen her out sipping chai, sporting her booty hugging Lululemons with her messy post yoga hair. She appears light and breezy with an air of sensuality. Even though, at the forefront of your mind you’re thinking about what you could do with her flexible body, she’s much more than a pretty asana. Before you embark on this spiritual endeavor or just try to get her your yoga pants there are some things you should know.
  1. No More Frauds.
    • Look, yogini’s want to get real with you. She wants to know about your life, challenges, dreams, hopes, fears, intellect…she doesn’t have time for small talk, games or any other bullshit. Keep it 100 with her no matter if its just a hook up or a LTR (Long Term Relationship). Go deep or go home.
  2. Do You Yoga, Bruh?
    • If you’re not unrolling your mat and striking your best Warrior II….You’re probably going to be encouraged to do so. She wants you to experience all the amazing benefits yoga has to offer and be part of her sacred practice.  The spiritual goddess wants her spiritual King. She’s yearning for her spiritual match.
  3. A Queen without the Drama.
    • Even though she might be a recovering hot mess this yogini has been doing her spiritual self work. She’s more composed and in control of her emotional state. She’s not going to lose her cool, gossip about others and start shit with you. You fuck around with her and take advantage of her equanimous aka Unfuckwithable nature, you’ll find yourself unfollowed, unfriended, deleted and blocked from her life.  Disclaimer: she is still imperfectly perfect feminine and will lose it from time to time.
  4. Feeling Herself.
    • This girl has taken a good look at herself. She is aware of her emotional and physical strengths and weaknesses. A Yogini embraces and celebrates her mind, body and soul. From her level of curvaceousness , sassy attitude, beautiful mind and not so sexy parts of her. Though her confidence is unwavering, she will humbly tell you she’s a work in progress and might occasionally enjoy checking out her own booty in the mirror.
  5. Hush Your Mouth.
    •  Gentlemen, don’t say, “Wow, I bet you’re flexible”. Just don’t. She’s heard it from almost every guy she’s mentioned that she practices yoga to. When men hear that a girl does yoga, they think about the probability of her legs behind her head or doing the splits on top of him. Don’t be a douche. However, if you are blessed enough to find yourself in the Goddess’s bed then a, “Wow, yoga has really paid off for you” wouldn’t be a terrible idea!
  6. Woo Woo Alter!
    • Chakras, universe, asana, energy are some terms you’re gonna have to get used to hearing if you’re going to date this divine diva. She has a sacred look on life and will communicate in this manner. She might do or say things that weird you out. Perhaps you see her meditation space full of crystals, tarot cards, spiritual deities, sage and other exotic objects. Just roll with it….you might just learn something and enjoy yourself.
  7. Catching Feels.
    • Yes, she’s been hurt, broken hearted and dragged through the mud a couple times! Yet, she keeps her heart charka open for the right people. She is discerning about who’s energy she’s around. If your aura is good she might just let you into her world. She’s not scared to catch feelings for the right spiritual warrior. If you have a “feels phobia” you can keep your asana away. But if you’re ready to experience some magic, step your Shiva self over here.
Gentlemen, yogini’s are a special breed….You treat her like a Goddess, she will treat you like a King and she might balance your chakras in the process! Remember what the late great, Bob Marley, said, “If she’s amazing, she won’t be easy. If she’s easy, she won’t be amazing. If she’s worth it, you won’t give up. If you give up, you’re not worthy.”